Talk and talk and talk and talk and.... you get the idea!

Last night I came home from dinner and drinks with some new friends and started talking to my good friend Kurt. We got to talking about stuff again last night. It's all kind of a mess. He really likes me, he wants more than I'm willing to give and more than I really want. He's going through a divorce right now and when I say 'going through' I mean he just got papers, he is still living his house with his wife. Granted he is in the spare bedroom, and she is in the master bedroom, but still, he is technically married.
It weirds me out a little, and definitely weirds out my parents. As it should. He's not someone I need to get involved with right now. It's just asking for trouble.
After a LONG conversation, it was decided that we not pursue anything. I'm too uncomfortable with it, and he doesn't want to put me in a position where I'm uncomfortable.
Today, he sends me a message basically saying I think we can still hang out as friends and be alright. That way we can still get to talk and see eachother occasionally, but no funny stuff. I have no problem with this. This is absolutely what I want from him. I'm concerned that he is going to have a hard time with it though. I can behave myself pretty easily, but knowing what I do about how he feels about me, leads me to believe that this may be an obsticle for him.
At any rate, we talked throughout the day on instant messenger and it was fine. Good actually. He was going out to happy hour with some guys from work. When I got out of class I had a text waiting for me from him. No biggie. Well then the texts start getting a different tone to them. He is trying to figure out a way that we can see eachother still. And not in the "we're gonna be pals" kinda way either. Well they flip-flop. I get one text wanting us to be together, and the next one is an apology for crossing the line. Then another inappropriate (for our redefined relationship) one, then another apology. I don't want to go through this everytime he has a couple of beer, but I don't want to lose him as a friend either. I think I may have blew it when things first started... but now I don't know what to do.
I'm sure tomorrow we'll have more conversations about it... at length... we'll see.