Monday, December 24, 2007
Christmas Party
Kurt was there, as he is at all of our friend/family functions now, because he too is our friend. I had convinced Kurt to stay the night at our house by selling the breakfast I was going to make in the morning. He shouldn't drive in that condition. He promptly made another drink and agreed. I set up a "bed" for him with some extra blankets in the living room. I was in my room talking to our friend Nick, when my brother came in and said that Kurt and our other friend Jason were leaving. We hopped up to re-convince them both to stay. When we came out, Kurt was already gone and there was no convincing Jason on staying.
The reason I bring this up is the oddness of Kurt. Kurt shouldn't have driven. He had a lot to drink. And when I saw him online and told him as much he told me he "got lonely" so he went to his local bar to find someone to spend the night with. Now, I don't want to be with Kurt, but I do care about him. He is my friend. I really still think that he is wrapped up in the idea of me. This sounds strange, and maybe self-centered, but it's the vibe I'm getting. He keeps telling me we're friends, and that everything is cool. But disappearing acts, odd pouting, and online conversations elude to something else. He could hardly look me in the face after I introduced him to Jeff on Thursday. And he seemed fine with the idea of staying last night until Nick and I were in my room, his tune changed really quick. And tonight while chatting online he said in so many words that this had been a particularly bad week, but I wouldn't know about that. Then he said that he hadn't been "kicked enough yet" and signed off right after telling me to sleep well. Sound fishy to you? Or am I just thinking the world revolves around me when it does not?
Sunday, December 23, 2007
Thursday night out
With Christmas in two days I'm not sure when I'll get to see him again, but I hope I get to see him before I leave town for Arizona for New Years Eve.
Monday, December 17, 2007
Brent who?
Old friends
Saturday afternoon rolled around and he called as promised. We made arrangements for Sunday, agreeing to meet at his house and then ride bikes over to the PB Shore Club. He proceeded to ask what I was doing that night. I told him I needed to start getting my house in order, get a Christmas tree, and start decorating. He said that if I got a "wild hair" and wanted to join him and his friends out that I was more than welcome. This invitation and phone call made me giddy. I was so happy he called, so happy that I'd get to see him again. As the evening went on and I got more wrapped up in my cleaning, I figured I'd call him to let him know that I wouldn't be making it out. He was full of temptation though. He tried his hardest to get me to come out, but as time ticked on I decided it best for me to stay in.
Sunday morning we met up, rode bikes, and watched football as planned. He looked great. And again, it was nice to see him. As the day went on, we got closer. As in sitting next to each other, more knee pats and elbows touching kinda stuff. Mild flirtations, but nonetheless, still flirtation. We changed venues about a quarter into our second game. When the Chargers had a comfortable enough lead I suggested we watch a different game, so we separated from his buddies who had joined us later and went off to find a table. There we sat, more flirting, more smiles, more touching. At one point he was holding my hand to warm me up, but then we didn't let go. It sounds funny to say now. But then we started to talk about how things ended before. How comfortable this seemed, How he has always liked me, and I him. It was nice. It's making me smile a day later just thinking about it. But, I was running out of time. I had to come back home still and get stuff together for a Christmas party at a friends house. I said I didn't want to leave, he said he didn't want me to leave, but we left anyways. When we got back to his house and put the bikes away we hugged. A big, long, squeeze the life outta ya hug, it felt so good! He nestled his face in my neck, and I did the same to his, this was it, now or never, I kissed his neck, he pulled back to look at me, I asked if that was okay, already knowing the answer and he said yes, that he was going to go for it if I didn't and then we kissed. A nice kiss. Long enough, but not too long. I pulled back with a grin on my face and we pulled out of our hug, I said I should go, and he said "Come'ere darlin'" and gave me another big hug. Then, I finally left. I feel like I've stepped into a time machine and gone back two years, he's all I can think about.
I have issues though. He just broke up with his girlfriend a few weeks ago, I really do not want to be his rebound. I deserve better than that, he knows it too, he better anyways! I don't know if I should talk to him about it all, I think that's my best bet. I'd like to date him again, to see what may happen. After all these years of knowing him it still feels like unfinished business. At any rate, I can't wait to see him again, I don't know when that will be, but I'm hoping soon.
Monday, December 10, 2007
Monday at the office
Saturday, December 8, 2007
1:17 AM
We saw "Atonement". I wouldn't say I liked it, but I would probably say it was a good movie. After the movie we walked across the way to TGIFridays. The place was PACKED for some reason and he suggested we go some place else. This is how we ended up at Rock Bottom. He did however have to go in and check out the place beforehand because he knew some of the "basketball guys" were going to be there. The coast was clear so we went in, and talked over a beer. A single beer, that's it this time, and I'm glad. Last call was shouted when I was in the restroom, and when I came back out the lights were on and he was ready to go. He walked me to my car, said thank you for going to the movies with him and said that we should do it again sometime soon. I said "Yea?" and he kissed me. We had a normal date, it was fun! So, here I sit at 1:27AM now wondering if he is thinking about me. Wondering if there will be a second date this time around. Will he actually use my number? I had a really good time, so I hope he does call, and I hope we do go out again. With all this, I think my day has been long enough and I think I can go to sleep finally.
Wednesday, December 5, 2007
He's too confusing
Tuesday, December 4, 2007
MySpace, YourSpace, HisSpace
Friday, November 30, 2007
Friday night in
This week was rather uneventful as far as the men are concerned. The Saturday night "hook-up" never called. Neither did Brent. But, I have still been emailing with the other guy from the bar on MySpace. He gave me his number today in an email. I'm not sure what my next move is.
An unexpected call came in on Thursday night though. I was down at my parents' house watching my beloved Packers when my phone rings. It was a guy that I had a crush on from 21 on. We kept crossing paths and finally dated for about a 6 month stint through the summer of 2005. Great guy, gorgeous, and lots of fun. Anyways, he called to ask me about the Packers game and suggested that we get together and hang out sometime. One, he still has my roadside emergency kit from when we went to San Felipe, and two it'd be cool to hang out, like I said he's a good guy. No funny business here though, he's got a girlfriend! It'll be good to see an old friend.
Wednesday, November 28, 2007
Grrr...
The other call that I was sort of expecting was from my Saturday night hook-up. But still no word from him either. I asked my friends husband about him today. He said that the hook-up hasn't mentioned anything, but they've been really busy at work. His advice was to wait a couple weeks, and call him if I haven't heard from him, ask him if he wants to hang out.
The third... the guy from the bar that asked for my number but I only gave him my MySpace. We've been emailing back and forth, he seems like a nice guy, and I don't know, I'm thinking I should go out with him. What do you think?
Tuesday, November 27, 2007
An interesting Saturday night
Wednesday is supposed to be my rescheduled meeting with Brent. I postponed last week, there was just too much going on already. We'll see. I can't figure out if this man is interested in me or not. He's so wish-washy, but damn he's hot!
Tuesday, November 20, 2007
Too tired
Monday, November 19, 2007
Too much going on
Friday, Brent stopped to hassle me a bit on his way out of his office somewhere. It was 3:15 and I was still at work. Yes, I work until 3:45. At any rate it made me smile that he popped by to flirt with me. On my way out of the office at 3:45 he was on his way back into the building. We caught each other's eye and connected to chit-chat and flirt some more. He asked if I had spoken to my ex lately (with whom he knows) I told him not really, that we don't really talk much. "So you guys aren't back together yet?" No. We're not, and that's not going to happen. To which he responded that he'd like to take me out for a beer again if I was interested. SIGH. Yes, of course I was interested. We talked about doing something the following week, Thanksgiving week, now, this week.
Today, this morning, my grandfather passed away. At 2:35 a.m. actually. It has been a hard day. Tomorrow I have class, and in the days to come I have lots of studying to do along with a paper to write. Not to mention my best friend's birthday. This has already been a crazy week and it's only Monday.
Saturday, November 3, 2007
A night in
Friday, November 2, 2007
Two notes...
The other note was that I was at the bank yesterday and while waiting in the merchant teller area a gentleman who was also sitting waiting for assistance tried to strike up a conversation. We were making polite small talk when my turn came up. After my transaction, I turned and said goodbye, he asked for my card. I don't have cards, I'm a receptionist, I told him the best way to get in touch with me was my e-mail. I think it's funny that I didn't want to even give him my phone number! He still jumped at the opportunity. Just something that made me smile, thinking back to my hey-days again.
Monday, October 29, 2007
Nothing new
Thursday, October 18, 2007
Something New
Sunday, October 7, 2007
It's been a little while
Friday night I went to Oktoberfest with my dad, brothers, and some friends. It was kind of boring after a little while and with the crowds it was really hard to keep everyone together. I accidentally called my friend from high school who I haven't talked to in a long time when I was trying to call my best friends husband (both start with C - one click away in my phone). I ended up going to hang out with the friend from high school and playing pool with him and his friends at Society's in PB. I had a lot of fun with them.
Saturday morning I woke up early and drove up to Manhattan Beach. Oh. My. God. It was beautiful up there. I've never been, and I absolutely loved it!
Today was a great day too. Got up watched some football, took a shower, watched some football, took a nap, watched some more football. Great Sunday!
Meanwhile, I still have a crush on Brent and Kurt kept texting me this weekend eventhough I wasn't texting back.
Sunday, September 30, 2007
The end of September
Today I got a text message from said guy, "Sorry, my phone died". I text him back and said that it was okay. He wrote back and asked "What are you doing tonight?" I didn't respond.
Wednesday, September 26, 2007
Feeling bad... kinda
Meanwhile, Brent and I have started a mild flirtation again. It's fun, I like it, I always have. He asked me about the Flower Guy yesterday. I said he was out. I got a pretty funny look that I couldn't read. When he asked what happened I told him nothing, it just wasn't there. And then I got another funny look. Who knows!
Thursday, September 20, 2007
Late night thoughts
I'm glad. It put me at peace to have this reiterated.
Sunday, September 16, 2007
I got a happy feeling this morning
Friday, September 14, 2007
Hmmmm....
What is it about this guy? I can't figure it out...
Monday, September 10, 2007
Alone time
I didn't see Ray this weekend, and it's not even like he's very high maintenance. It was nice to do my own thing on my own time.
I'm also extremely frustrated with men in general lately. The Kurt thing on Thursday night kinda kicked it into high gear. Aren't any of them good guys with good intentions? When they do have good intentions they just annoy me, I don't know what's wrong. I don't know if it's me. But I do know I'm very frustrated these days.
Friday, September 7, 2007
Boring days...
Yesterday, I was invited by Kurt to have a beer with him and his buddy down at the Waterfront. Kurt and I have been talking and hanging out on a friend level so I figured it sounded safe enough. I walked in, and didn't feel safe. I was getting weird looks from Kurt, and his buddy was making references to Kurt and me doing things together or hanging out. I had a couple beers and when I was getting up to go to the restroom Kurt leans across the table and says "Come here". I asked "What?" at first I thought he was gonna gossip about his buddy or something, and then I caught on. I playfully slapped his face twice and said "No, no." and hopped off my stool and went to the bathroom. He wanted to kiss me. He's such a pain in the ass. I need to not hang out with him I guess. It's too uncomfortable and weird and frustrating and annoying now.
Saturday, September 1, 2007
Holiday weekend dilemma
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Wednesday, August 22, 2007
Dreams
But then I woke up, with the gasp and heart racing and anger. Still too much anger and resentment towards him. I don't like it. I don't want it. What do I do about it?
Sunday, August 19, 2007
On my nerves
After I paid we came home and I turned on the TV. I put on a "Rescue Me" I had on DVR and watched that. That was fine, because it was quiet time. When the show was over he started to kiss me and I stopped him and said I needed to talk to him. I told him that I didn't know what I was so scared of, but I was trying to figure it out and I think I need to step back a little. He said okay, and that he was starting to wonder about what was going on with me. I also told him that with school my free time is limited, and while I like spending time with him, or whomever my significant other is, but I also require a lot of personal time, and time with my friends, so I couldn't promise him a given amount of time. He also asked me how long it had been since I broke up with my ex, I told him May. He then asked how long we had been together. I told hime my standard "a year, this time" response. He didn't want details, so I didn't offer them. He only asked what this time meant, so I told him. He then said that 3 months isn't really very long, and he agreed that things had kind of gone fast. He said he understood and told me to keep "mullin' it over" and that he'd be here. I guess I could always use the unresolved issues angle if need be. It's not like I can say "Be less annoying and I'll want to hang out with you more." or "Why don't you give me a call when you get your shit together?" Can I?
Why does he get on my nerves so badly? Am I just looking for reasons? Sometimes, some of the stuff he says to me is everything I could possibly ever want from a man, so why doesn't it fit? I guess it's just me?
Tuesday, August 7, 2007
An intense conversation
He said that there's so much he wants to tell me, and so much he wants me to know about him. I told him I wanted to know it all. He got increasingly anxious as he was about to confess his past to me. Then I started to get nervous. He came out with it, he went through a lot before he moved out here last year. A lot as in a gigantic downward spiral. He had a pretty hefty coke addiction back in North Carolina and it seems he lost his way some where in college. He left to change. He left for a fresh start. So far San Diego hasn't really offered that to him, well it hasn't been handed to him anyways.
He kept telling me that it all changed a couple of weeks ago when we first started hanging out. He said over and over again that all these changes in him came to fruition and it was my doing. I told him that I didn't do anything, all of these changes, things that he had done happened because he made the decision to make them happen. For some reason he wasn't buying it. I really didn't do anything, I didn't even say anything, even make any kind of suggestion. He kept insisting that everything was changing because of me. I think he needs to give himself a little more credit.
The more he talked about his past, the more it seemed to me that he felt like he had been at a disadvantage of some sort because of his own internal struggle to please those around him. He had been "cut-off" by his parents when he was in college because he lied to them about drugs and then got caught in the lie. I was a little flabbergasted. Of course they were upset, he burned a level of trust they had in them by lying to them. I said this to him, and he got very defensive. I told him, it wasn't an attack, I was just playing devil's advocate. I don't think he had ever thought about the situation from anyone's point of view but his own. This scares me a little. The history of drugs scare me a little. The fact that he's been living in San Diego since October, has his degree and all he's been doing is side carpentry jobs and delivering flowers scares me. He wants things to change, he wants to be here, he wants to do something different and better with his life, I'm just not sure if he will. He said that he didn't think he wanted to get back into contruction again. I said to him that he could see what's out there, get a job doing that, because he's good at it and he knows it, and still take a photography class. It's feasible. He seemed to agree, he said that City College offered a Tuesday/Thursday class. I said with a smile, "It's time to be a big boy." He smiled back and agreed.
He needs to step it up. He needs to be responsible, he needs to realize that he is accountable for his own decisions and actions. I'm not going to be a happy girl with him if he continues to screw around and drink and party, when he needs to take some action and make some positive changes actually happen in his life.
What have I gotten into? Do I take a risk on this guy? Do I give him a chance? Or am I trying to fix someone that needs to fix himself? He trusts me. He said that he really wants this to work, that he hasn't felt like this about anyone in a really long time. And when I look into his eyes, I know he's telling me the truth and is being so open with me, and it melts me.
Monday, August 6, 2007
Oh Brent
"Did you call me?" he asks. I said I didn't have his number. "You could have come by my office." he replied. I told him that I didn't even know if he was in the office, I saw him leave but never saw him come back. He asked me to come by his office on Monday because he wanted to talk to me. We all know what's coming next...
Today, I went down to his office, close the door behind me per his request, and he comes over to hug me. It was a good hug, and then he kisses me on the cheek (just a peck), and smells my neck. He tell me I smell good. Surprised, I say thanks. We sat down and proceeded to chit-chat. Then, the real reason he wanted to talk comes out. He wanted me to know that he had a really good time when we went out, and he was sorry he hadn't called. He said he wanted me to know that it was because of his stuff going on. Okay. Fine, it's fine, really. I told him I know, that I've been doing this long enough to know that if someone doesn't call, that they either have other stuff going on, or their not interested or whatever. It's fine and completely unnecessary. I told him I appreciate the gesture but again it's not necessary. He said he felt like it was because we see each other everyday. We talk for a couple more minutes and he says that he hopes we can do it again sometime in the future. I smiled, and said "Me too."
As I was getting up to leave he gets up to give me another hug. I coyly ask "Oh, I get another hug?" He says sure and that he wanted to smell me again and asks if that's allowed. I said I didn't know. Still hugging me he starts to kiss my neck. Of course I like it. I snicker a little and ask if that's allowed. He said "I don't know, you tell me." I pull away a little and say, "I don't know, you're the one with the 'stuff' goin' on." Basically, you can't tell me you can't see me because you have stuff to work through and then still get to kiss me. It doesn't work like that Brent! He smiles and nods and says "How about a fist pound? Is that allowed?" Smart ass. I give him a fist pound and he holds my hand for a split second as we make a joke about cold hands.
It was fine. I still have a smile on my face about it. I'm sure we'll continue to smile and flirt and give each other looks in passing. Which I like anyways. I have a feeling this falls into my "Unfinished Business" category and there may be another installment of Brent sometime in the future. We shall see.
Wednesday, August 1, 2007
So, my boyfriend just left
I'm not sure if I've mentioned this before about Ray, but he's fashionably-challenged. He came over wearing a "Bonnaroo" shirt, some jean shorts and some tennis shoes. No problem right? Wrong. Bonnaroo looked like it had been to hell and back - there was a hole the size of my right hand along the seam under his left arm. What would possess someone to wear something like that out in public? Why? I'm really trying to not be superficial, but come on! The boy needs some help! I mean not that I was terribly dressed up, I came home and got into my workout pants to be comfortable. At least all of my seams are sewn together.
After dinner we went to the couch and sat at talked, well he did. About college basketball. Don't get me wrong, I'm a sportsfan, more than a lot of women actually, but basketball is not my schtick. I'more of a football/baseball kind of gal. I'm happy to listen though. He gets all excited and riled up about Carolina, and Duke, and their rivalry with East Carolina. Super. Thanks, Ray, I was really concerned about NCAA coaches and their winning years.
At any rate, I'm really scared here. He is so nice and so into me and it scares me. He tells me I'm beautiful all of the time. We were sitting facing eachother and I got lost in a gaze and he just says, "God, you're just beautiful, you're so beautiful, everything you do." Wow. Stuff like that scares the crap out of me. I told him I don't know what to do with him, this is where my effective communication skills are a bit lacking. I really mean I don't know what to do with him, how to categorize him, how/if/where to fit him into my life. I know Ray would do anything for me, anything I wanted, needed, ever asked of him. Why am I so scared? Isn't this what I wanted for so long from everyone of my exes? He said that he's not ready to tell me how he feels about me yet. I just my fall over if he uses the "L" word on me.
My friend Nate and I were talking today about breaking our cycle as far as relationships go. Looking for and finding someone who treats us well, who doesn't come with a bunch of drama and issues, someone who looks at us and thinks the same thing we do when we look at them. Isn't that what we're all looking for? Does it ever happen concurrently? Or does someone always like the other person more than the other? Am I just overthinking everything? Should I just go with it even if I think I'm going to end up breaking this guy's big ol' sweet heart?
Oh God. I must be getting close to my cycle, because I just saw the season finale of The King of Queens and I welled up a little. Oh, and a KFC commercial just came on and it looked delicious. Yup, I'm gonna start soon for sure.
Sunday, July 29, 2007
Double Uh-Oh
Saturday was our planned day. He came up with his friend/roommate and we went to my best friend's house to hang out there before the races. We sat around with my best friend's husband and his friends, drank beers and watch the Padres while we waited for others to show up. We walked over to the races, drank some beers, watched the ponies and hung out with the boys. It was a really good time! I ended up saying something to Ray about my potty mouth, and just said "your girl has an awful mouth" or something to that effect and he jumped on it. He asked me if he could call me his "girl" officially. I wasn't saying that at all, but I don't mind the idea of it. I really like hanging out with him, he's super sweet, a great kisser, so I told him he could if he wanted to. So, he kissed me and I supposed I have a boyfriend! Ray ended up staying the night and it was great. We laid in each others arms, we kissed, we didn't take it any further, I'm not ready to actually, and he didn't even try for it. He really is a gentleman to me. He says things to me, and I actually believe him. It's been a long time since I've had this sort of feeling about someone. Just laying in his arms makes me smile. Looking in his eyes scares me and makes me smile and makes my heart jump all at once. I'm happy! I just hope I don't get too scared and freak out about things.
Thursday, July 26, 2007
Uh-oh
I think I got so caught up in the idea of Brent that I didn't even give Ray a real chance. I'm glad I got to see him last night.
Wednesday, July 25, 2007
Last night on the phone
Logically, he and I make sense together. He's really sweet, he's smart, we have a lot of the same interests, we can talk for days, he really likes me and I know he would treat me like a princess. I think there is just something missing for me though. Why can't I find someone like this that I feel the same about? Does that even exist? Or is the relationship always lop-sided? Does one person always have to like the other more than they like them? It doesn't seem fair, but it seems to be the way it goes.
Monday, July 23, 2007
Monday at the office
About 30 minutes later Ray came into my office to make our Monday delivery. He was nervous to go back to my bosses office. He knew he was about to get hassled. He came back out with a smile on his face, and said "He remembers my name now." He asked me if I had heard about a Micro Brew Fest going on at the race track this weekend. I said I did, and that my friend's husband had just e-mailed a group of us and that I thought I was going to go with them. He said that he had mentioned it to some of his friends too and that they were going to go. I said that we would have to meet up. He said "definitely" and that he would talk to me later.
At the end of the day Brent was walking by my office, and peeked in to check out if it was safe for him to come in and talk to me. There was no one around so he stopped in with a grin on his face. He asked how my day was. And then asked, with a smirk if I had a good weekend. I said "Yea, it was good!" and gave out a little chuckle. I asked him how his was as he started to step away from the door way. He said "It was okay!" "Just okay?" I shouted after him. He popped his head around the door and said "I'm just teasin'!" With that he took off.
I've got it bad for Brent for sure. I was talking with a girlfriend of mine today about him. She asked me what I wanted from him. If I was just interested in him because of the sexual attraction, or if there was something else there. I didn't know how to answer. I like him, he's a nice man, he funny, and fun, and intelligent. I definitely think he is handsome, and am so attracted to him. But is this a sexual thing? I wonder if that's all this is... I'm back in my head again. And he hasn't even asked me out again. All this thinking and it may all be for nothing! On that note, I have some more thinking to do and I think the best place to do this is in my bed!
Sunday, July 22, 2007
Weekend in Review
Sunday with Brent: I wore a sundress and flip flops since he said to dress casual. I showed up at a couple minutes before 4 and ordered a beer. A Yellowtail to be precise. Started to drink and I was just sitting waiting when Brent showed up. He came over and said hello and kissed me on the cheek. I was so nervous. After all, I only had the hots for this man since I first met him way back in October. He asked if I played pool, I told him I can, it's fun, but that I wasn't very good at it. He too ordered a Yellowtail, and we went into the bar and played a couple rounds of pool. He proceeded to tell me that he went out with a friend of his the night before and "guess who I ran into?" he asked. I rolled my eyes and asked if he went out in PB. He said yes, and immediately I knew he was talking about my ex. He nodded and said he started to feel a little guilty when he saw him, especially when he introduced Brent to his friend as "the guy that works down the hall from Lily". I asked "are you kidding me? That's who you are to him? The guy that works down the hall from me? That's it?" I told him that I didn't feel like I owed my ex anything and that he and I were not going to get back together. We moved on from me getting my ass kicked twice at pool to a table. We continued to talk and flirt and talk some more. He asked me to come over to his side of the table. Of course I went. He started to touch my leg and caress my back, and then - he kissed me. It sort of caught me off guard. I wasn't expecting it, not then, not there. Don't get me wrong, I wasn't objecting, I was a willing participant. Three beers deep I went to the restroom, when I came back he had already asked for the bill. He paid the bill and asked me if I'd walk him to his car, I immediately said "Depends on where you're parked." I'm such a smart ass sometimes! He sort of chuckled and said he was "right out here". We went out and he was parked on the same street as me. He said "Oh then you can drive me to my car!" Okay, so hop in, I'll give you a ride Brent. We got in my car and I asked which one was his, and how far I needed to go up. He pointed back and said "that one". Of course! The Expedition! He has three sons, what else would he drive?! Oh god. I pull over to let him out and he says that he was glad he came out and met up with me, I said that I was too and we kissed again. He said he wanted a hug, I leaned over my center console and with my seat belt restraining me, tried to hug him. It just wasn't working so I said that I wanted a real hug and hopped out of the car to meet him on the sidewalk for a hug and of course a kiss. He just sat in the passenger seat and said "come here, give me a hug then." I came in, sat on his lap, wrapped my arms around him and kissed him some more. He's so hot, and while I wanted to do more than just kiss this guy, I didn't want things to go much further right then and there. He kissed me on the lips and worked his way down my neck onto my chest and said that he wanted to feel my "B's". I through my head back with a smirk on my face and said "I bet you do!" He kissed me some more and went in to peek at my "B's". I pulled away slightly and he asked me "If it was him or where we were?" I said that it was because it was now, basically, I didn't want to take it any further right then. Which was a lie. I wanted to rip his clothes off, right then, right there. On that side street in La Jolla, in the daylight with bar patrons walking by. I don't know why, but I am so hot for this 43 year old man. So hot. He got out of my car, got in his dad-mobile and drove off.
Tomorrow will be interesting to see Ray and Brent, and to see how things are and what will be done and said. I didn't think this far ahead, but now I'm anxious to see what will become of this, and how close these two guys really are. We shall see! As for now, I have Brent on the brain and a guilty feeling about Ray.
Thursday, July 19, 2007
When you can talk forever
We ended up just talking, and talking and talking some more. For someone who is "not a phone person" he sure can talk! It was really nice though, we seem to have some similar quirks and interests and now I'm really excited to go out with him on Saturday. An hour an a half later, we finally got off the phone, and even then it was a conscience effort to actually hang up with him. He's smart, and funny, and sweet, and cute, and he's tall! Thank God! A tall one! Saturday should be a good time.
I have two dates!
The plans to do something on Sunday were solidified yesterday. He rolled by my office when he came in yesterday morning and asked me to come by his office a little later. On my way to pick up lunch for the office, I popped in. He initially asked if I wanted to get together on Saturday night, but I had to inform him that I couldn't because I was busy. Knowing full well that I had asked out Ray the day before he began to give me a hard time. "Oh with the guy that you asked out the other day?" I replied with an embarrassed smile and a meek "Yes." He again informed me that he can't believe I asked someone out and it wasn't him and that his feelings were hurt. I told him very fast, that I didn't know where he was coming from, that I just didn't know. He said he didn't know where he was coming from either considering he knows my ex and they have mutual friends. He also reiterated that he would like to keep this from my ex, I agreed whole-heartedly. What he doesn't know won't hurt him. It's just a date right? He then started giving me the third degree. "What's this guy do? How old is he? Is he a nice guy? Where is he taking you on Saturday?" I was shocked at how forward he was and a little taken aback, but his nice smile and easy-going laughter quickly made me comfortable again. I said that he was the flower delivery guy, and that he was a nice guy, and he was a year older than I was. I told him sushi, he kind of smiled and said, "I guess I won't take you to sushi on Sunday then." He then, went for a jab at Ray, "Sushi, isn't that a little pricey for a flower delivery guy?" Oh God. I laughed and shruged and said "I don't know, but that's what we're doing."
This should be an interesting weekend! I cannot wait, especially for Sunday!
Tuesday, July 17, 2007
I have a date!
I called him back on the way home and we talked on the phone for about a half an hour! It was really nice to talk to him. We decided that Saturday would work since I have a test that morning and I should study on Friday night. We know we're going to get some sushi, but beyond that, no plans yet. He said he would call again before we went out, and that I should feel free to call him too.
He also said he's not much of a phone person and he must have been really enjoying talking to me because we had been on the phone for so long. He's cute, and I can't wait to go out with him on Saturday.
Monday, July 16, 2007
Back to Brent
At any rate, he proceeds to inquire as to whether I was seeing anyone, I told him I asked someone out today. He said "You did? Aww...I'm right down the hall and you asked someone else out?" as he started to walk a was hanging his head dramatically. I said to him "I don't know, what happened? I thought we were supposed to go out for beers and the next thing I hear you're hanging out with [the ex] having beers! I didn't know." He came back over to me and said "It wasn't like we went out for beers, it was a bachelor party and we had a couple of beers. I like you, I was just weary because I didn't know how you would feel about that." I told him I didn't know, how that would work, I know the ex would be hurt if he found out that Brent and I went out on a date. But that doesn't change the fact that I like him, and he likes me. Brent said to me "Well, maybe he just wouldn't have to know about this." I told him "Oh, he doesn't get to know anything about my dating life!" Then I said "Well lets do it then, what's your schedule like this week? All I have is school." He said "You have to let me know, am I second in line to the this other guy now?" I told him I didn't have plans, and to let me know when he was available. He said that "From Friday on" he was available, I told him I thought I had class on Saturday morning but that was it. So, he told me to let him know. I need to talk to him tomorrow and see if he wants to go out on Friday or Saturday!
FLOWERS!
To Arizona or Bust
I'm happy to report that my girlfriend that I was visiting met a very cute boy while we were out on Saturday night. His friend that was trying to make the moves on me was unfortunately not so cute and I was not interested.
I had such a good time, dancing, drinking, napping, laying by the pool, catching up with friends, tubing, and napping some more. It was a well needed getaway for me!
Unfortunately for the blog's sake, I have no new boys to report on. The Navy boy has been in touch... not so sure about him though... there will be more on that later!
Thursday, July 12, 2007
Navy boy!
At any rate, I'm going to visit a friend in Phoenix this weekend. I'm sure I'll have some blog-worthy stories to share come Monday. And I think I'll be coming back to a cute Navy boy to see if there are more stories to go along with this hot latin boy!
Sunday, July 8, 2007
Meanwhile, back at the barracks...
I think this will most likely be my last post about this little cutie-pie Navy boy!
Thursday, July 5, 2007
It's on!
Happy Hour is My Favorite Hour
Met some little navy boy, I guess he's not a boy, he's 29, and cute, and a really good kisser I found out! We all ended up hanging out until the bars closed down. I took him back to base and dropped him off.
We'll see if he calls, or if we go out again... I'll keep you updated!
Monday, July 2, 2007
BBQ regrets
I like hanging out with him. I want to hang out with him. But he wants to date me and kiss me and God knows what else! I told him I don't want to lead him on and that I can't promise that anything even will happen in the future. Why does everyone want to talk about everything? Why can't we just let things go, let them be? Does everything have to be so defined?
I told him I don't like that when we have a couple of drinks we end up making out. I need to stick to my guns or not. There's not really a half way in between. Not for us. He likes me too much for there to be a halfway between.
We're friends. He says he's cool with that, so we'll see hopefully we can hang out.
BBQ's and Boys
Regardless of what he says, there is no possible way that Kurt actually likes me. He likes the idea of me. Right? I don't know what to think. He keeps hanging around, which is fine. I like him being around... He says he likes me for all of these reasons. He says "why wouldn't I like you?". He thinks I have my head on straight, that I have my shit together, that I'm smart, funny, cute, fun, thoughtful... Wow.
I think I like him for how he makes me feel about myself. This scares me. I shouldn't be that drawn to some one for how he makes me feel about myself. I should like them for who they are.
We had a BBQ today at my house. It was fun. Grilled some yummy food, drank one too many adult beverages, a good time all in all.
What happened? I was lying in bed and said it would be okay for Kurt to lay with me. What am I doing? Besides sending mixed messages to him. Poor guy. I don't know what to do. I like him, and the more I talk to him, the more I like him. The more similarities I see and hear. I don't know if he's telling me what I want to hear or if this is really what this man is about. How can this be? How can I have things in common wih a man this much older than me? He is 11 years older than I am. He is my brothers friend. He is going through a divorce. I let him kiss me. I kissed him back. Thank God that's as far as it went. I think I would have liked more, but my brain wouldn't allow that to happen. Whew!
I'm not even attracted to him physically. He is not my type, whatever that is. I think I'm attracted to how he makes me feel about myself.
Wednesday, June 27, 2007
Resolution.. kind of?
He called and we talked on the phone for a long time. By the time I actually spoke to him, I had calmed down thankfully, I don't like losing my cool.
He apologized for fighting with me. He said that when it comes to fighting - at a certain point its not about the point anymore, it becomes just about winning. So, he apologized for that too.
I told him that we can go over it all again and again, and rehash old fights, but there really isn't a point to it. What's done is done. Although we ended the conversation on a good note, I am still unsure at this point if we will really remain friends. We both said that we would like that, but I don't know if he can handle that at this point. I think I had detached myself from the situation far enough back that I don't think it will be an issue for me to see him and not get completely reminiscent about how good things were. I remember very quickly and vividly why we are not together. And I told him so this evening. I don't know if that was mean or not, but I felt it needed to be said. I think this chapter of my life is over with him and we both need to move on, we've already put too much time and effort into it. He does seem to be having a harder time coping with this than I have. Which is hard, but I don't feel remorseful about, as cold and calloused as it sounds, I just don't. I really feel I gave it everything I had, and even more than I had at times. It just got so exhausting and felt like the only option at a certain point. He asked me if I was also experiencing some of the difficulty getting through this as he was. My answer was also, cold I suppose, it was a simple "no, not really". This is the truth though. There was no need too lie to spare feelings, I don't need to do that and end up somewhere I don't want to be. I did have a very hard time hanging up, it was weird, I didn't want to say goodbye. Partially because I do still care about him and its hard to let go of that, but also because I don't know when I'll speak to him again. It's a very surreal experience.
Now I'm left with some studying and some tired eyes, but I needed to get that off my chest.
Exes
He seems to be under the impression that there is something to work out.
Here's the kicker, here's where it gets nice and twisted. Remember how I said that Brent stopped in to tell me that he saw my ex? Well, they were at a mutual friend's bachelor party, had a couple of beers and chatted. I'm sure Brent got an awesomely sad story about how much my ex misses me, and how great things were. Brent kept telling him, that he was sure we could work it out. WHAT? He barely knows either one of us and definitely did not know how are relationship was.
Guess what? Things weren't that great, and regardless of what he says or thinks, me and him getting back together - not a chance. I've already been down that road once. It's too exhausting. I can't do it again.
Monday, June 25, 2007
Alone
I had a really nice dinner with my brother and his new girlfriend, and now, after a couple glasses of wine and some TV, I think it's time to go to bed.
More confusion
I chickened out!!
Sunday, June 24, 2007
Running into old neighbors
Once we were done in the old apartment, my brother went to go sit in the car and I went and "stopped by" Andrew's. As I walked up to his apartment I could smell the weed. Great. He was so excited to see me though. It's kind of funny, I think he gets kind of nervous around me. Just something I observed... He was saying he's going to be in and out of town coming up here, but he'd like to see me. Maybe next week - he's out of town until Thursday and then he said he'll be "hangin' out" until about July 8. I ask "Hangin' out here or in Phoenix?". "Probably here, but even if it's in Phoenix, I could just send you a ticket and fly you out." All I could do was laugh a little! This guy really likes me. He likes me enough to fly me somewhere just to see lil' ol' me! Crazy.
I'm going to give him a call tomorrow - it's his birthday, I'll be nice. And I think I am going to hang out with him again next week. He was fun. I don't need to find a husband right now, I may as well just have fun, right?!
Saturday, June 23, 2007
Under the stars
Was it a date? I don't know. It kind of felt like one, there was no kiss, just a little hug at the end. He had made it clear that he liked me a while back, whether he still feels the same is a mystery but we'll see. Either way, I had a really good time. It just puts a smile on my face. What a little sweetheart! :)
Thursday, June 21, 2007
So confused
Talk and talk and talk and talk and.... you get the idea!
It weirds me out a little, and definitely weirds out my parents. As it should. He's not someone I need to get involved with right now. It's just asking for trouble.
After a LONG conversation, it was decided that we not pursue anything. I'm too uncomfortable with it, and he doesn't want to put me in a position where I'm uncomfortable.
Today, he sends me a message basically saying I think we can still hang out as friends and be alright. That way we can still get to talk and see eachother occasionally, but no funny stuff. I have no problem with this. This is absolutely what I want from him. I'm concerned that he is going to have a hard time with it though. I can behave myself pretty easily, but knowing what I do about how he feels about me, leads me to believe that this may be an obsticle for him.
At any rate, we talked throughout the day on instant messenger and it was fine. Good actually. He was going out to happy hour with some guys from work. When I got out of class I had a text waiting for me from him. No biggie. Well then the texts start getting a different tone to them. He is trying to figure out a way that we can see eachother still. And not in the "we're gonna be pals" kinda way either. Well they flip-flop. I get one text wanting us to be together, and the next one is an apology for crossing the line. Then another inappropriate (for our redefined relationship) one, then another apology. I don't want to go through this everytime he has a couple of beer, but I don't want to lose him as a friend either. I think I may have blew it when things first started... but now I don't know what to do.
I'm sure tomorrow we'll have more conversations about it... at length... we'll see.
He's baaaacck....
Don't get me wrong, I had a really good time with him. He's just a little immature for me and needs to work on his boundries... He's nice enough... but yea.
Wednesday, June 20, 2007
Back to school
Real conversations, kind of...
Monday, June 18, 2007
Restricted phone calls.... don't answer!
I answer the phone and he starts in with this love schpeel about wanting to be loved and asking if I want to be loved. And what I thought about him. If I wanted to date him and love him, and be loved by him. At first I thought he was drunk and as I'm laughing and trying to step out of the shock of what he's saying to me, he says, "you don't even know who this is!" I tell him I do - "This is David" I say. I'm laughing a little still trying to figure this out... and say that I don't know if I'm ready to love again because I just got out of a relationship and feel like I need some time to myself. He says "I didn't know that you just broke up with your boyfriend, did I?" Yea! You did!! I went into the scenario of when I told him what was going on when I told him I was newly single, and he replies "OH I know who this is!"
WHAT? You don't even know who I am and you're giving me this whole love line!? He then proceeds to tell me "I take it back, I don't want to be loved! Not by you!"
What?! That so mean! He says, "I remember I asked you to do something and you rejected me and never called me back or anything." I told him yes, this is true and for this I apologized, and told him I have literally had very little time with school going on right now. He replies, "Well, since you were nice enough to apologize, maybe I do want to date you! Do you want to date me?"
This man is clearly crazy. I told him that as cheesy as it sounds I really don't have time to date right now. At that, we wrapped up this bizarre conversation and said goodbye.
Lingering crush
New crush...
So, today's crush is the guy that delivers flowers to my office every week. We'll call him "Ray". He's a tall, blonde, cute guy from North Carolina and he is really nice. We chit chat every week. He asked me if I'd want to go to dinner a while ago, but I was still with the ex, so I had to say no. I'm going to see if he wants to go out sometime when I see him next Monday! :) Wish me luck!
Sunday, June 17, 2007
Neighborly love
Three drunk dials later that night (all before 10pm). He text me the next day and asked me out to dinner and drinks. Okay, I didn't have any plans, I was up for it, I agreed.
I go to meet him at his house (my old complex). First of all, I walk in and Tupac is BLARING on the TV through the house. Okay, a little ghetto, but whatever, I'm along for the ride... I have a seat on the couch and wait. He's funny, he's cute, and seems fun. He comes back out to the living room and says "One more dirty little deed before we go out." He pulls out his BONG.
Okay, this guy doesn't know me from Eve, for all he knows I could have been a cop. Doesn't seem to bother him a bit. He lights up, takes a hit and offers it to me. "No, thanks, I don't smoke." Off to a peculiar start... for me anyways.
We go to dinner. He's fun, like I said, funny... but silly. He seems nervous around me and untill about two beers in he doesn't even look me in the eye when we're talking. Am I that hard to look at or talk to? Really?
After dinner we go to meet up with his friends at a bar. We drank and danced and had a good time. He was a little too "handsy" for me, too comfortable touching or trying to touch me inapporpriately. I got a little too tipsy unfortunately and needed to sleep for a little bit before I could drive. He kept trying to make the moves... I wasn't havin' it. At 7am, I hopped up out of bed, put on my shoes and left.
Later that day I was out running errands and I got a text from him. He wanted to know if he was going to see me that day. Um, no. I have a real job and have to get my stuff done on the weekends. I just replied "no, not today"
I do have to say, he was quite persistant though. I met him on a Friday, went out with him on a Saturday, he wanted to see me on Sunday, called me Monday, and Tuesday, Wednesday I got some texts from him, spoke to him on Thursday and more texts on Friday.
I think this may be the only "Andrew" installment. I haven't had much time this week, and definitely didn't "make" time for Andrew. I'm pretty sure he's backed off as I didn't hear from him at all yesterday!
Out of the gate...
Kurt and I have know eachother for a while. He was a friend of my brothers who was a bit older than I and married. Earlier this year we found out that he and his wife were getting a divorce. Kurt and I formed a friendship and over email mostly we started chatting to pass the time. We'd make jokes and have serious chats about the stated of both our relationships. I listened to the stories about how he was dealing with his soon to be ex-wife, and how she was dealing with him. And he'd get to hear about the boyfriend and my issues with him as well as his issues with me.
The time came where I needed to have "the talk" with my boyfriend about what we were doing, and where we were going, if anywhere. It turned out we weren't going anywhere and it was time to part ways. Just as I was leaving his house after a lot of tears and goodbyes, I get a text from Kurt. "How are you doing?". I called him, and told him that I didn't know how he knew, but I had just left, and "we" were done. I ended up meeting Kurt for a beer later that day to just get out of the house and have someone to talk to.
We continued to talk online through the upcoming week and we were gonna grab a bite to eat on that Friday. I didn't know what to make of this meal. I didn't know if it was a date, if we were just two friends going out to eat and have a good time, I just didn't know. Later at the bar, it became abundantly clear when he made a comment about kissing me. Okay, I guess this is a date.
The next day was my brother's birthday and there was a party. Kurt, being my brother's friend was of course going to be there. I didn't know what to do with him, how to act around him, he obviously wanted to be affectionate. But I was uncomfortable with that and tried to keep my distance without being a bitch.
Things continued down an uncomfortable road for me. I just got out of a relationship, he was still technically married, he was my brothers friend.... I told him that I needed to take a step back from whatever "this" is. He said that was fine and understood.
Turns out I missed talking to him. We slowly started talking again. I started flirting again. And Friday night we went to dinner and I ended up in the same place all over again. Uncomfortable because I want to be single, because he's still married, because he's my brother's friend and because I'm afraid that he likes me much more than I like him and wants more than I am willing to offer.
Day One Introductions
About a month and a half ago my boyfriend and I broke up after a little over a year, this time. This was our second go around, and I really thought we could make it work. But, sometimes things don't work out how you hope they will.
Now I've embarked on another summer of being "single in San Diego". It's not a bad place to be single, it can be fun, it can be frustrating, but it's where I am. I thought it would be fun to keep a diary of my single life to look back on or share with others (if I chose to). It seems that there are adventures in each new person I meet. Guys that I have crushes on and those that have crushes on me. The fun part is finding a person I have a crush on at the same time they have a crush on me!
I'm pretty new to this blogging stuff and not sure how I want to format it so... if you're reading this, bare with me and hopefully you'll enjoy the adventures vicariously.